Mindfulness in order to take root in one’s being must begin in the Heart. If you have decided to embark on this journey of self-awareness from a purely intellectual mindset, you will most likely be disappointed and end your practice. Becoming more mindful, allows you to become your own best friend. It can help you learn to love yourself as you explore the parts of you you’d like to enrich as well as the parts you’d like to let go.
What helped me manage my anger when I was raising my three small children as a stay at home mom, was my first foray into mindfulness. I had promised myself I would not yell and scream at them like my own parents did raising my brother and I. Yet, unconsciously I had slipped into the role I vowed I would never take on.
Looking down at their three little faces looking up at me in total fear, helped me decide I would find the root cause of my rage. I asked my husband to watch the children and I took a long walk. What came to me was the cause of my anger was my own frustration of not having any time for myself. Once I finally verbalized it, I could see I could do something about it. I would find time in my day to do something enjoyable for myself. I equated this with a healthy self love. The uncontrollable anger dissipated as well as the guilt associated with it.
Taking a walk in nature, sitting quietly in a beautiful place, being creative, are all ways of taking time to be kind to yourself. No judgement, just love exploring your dimensions.